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Faithful Friday—Crazy?! October 9, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — srowe5 @ 8:41 am

I recently ventured out to Rite Aid with all three kiddos in tow, to score on some awesome deals!  I had Anna in the Baby Bjorn, Luke was in the cart, and Ava was walking so that she could be “Mommy’s helper.”  It was quite a great trip, all things considered…….there were no breakdowns, no tantrums and no major crying.  All in all, it was a successful trip to the store!

After we purchased our items and were heading out the door, all kiddos doing great,  a lady was coming inside the doors.   She stopped quite suddenly, pulled down her sunglasses to the tip of her nose, looked all the kids up and down, and said these exact words:  “You’re crazy.”  It wasn’t, like, a joyful, funny, sarcastic, “You’re crazy!!”  It was a firm, stern, slightly mean, “You’re crazy.”  It actually caught me off-guard and I said, “Excuse me??”  She said it again, in her unhappy, unjoyful, nasty way, and that was it…….she kept on walking into the store and we went on our way out to the car.

WHAT WAS THAT???!?!?!  I kept going over the whole scene in my mind……was she saying I was crazy because I shopped at Rite Aid??  Was it because I have three kids?  Was it because my kids are so close in age?  Was it because I took all three of them to the store with me?  What was it???!?!?!?!?

If she said it in a happy, jovial, funny way, I really could understand what she was trying to say, because I have heard it many, many times already in just these past 7 weeks since Anna has been born.  I know many people think going out with three kids under the age of 4, by yourself, is a daunting task.  I understand how people can think that, but they don’t say it in a way that is all-in-all: RUDE.  I just couldn’t believe it.

The way that this woman told me I was crazy, made me believe that she truly thought I was.  Like she was utterly disgusted, not only at the thought of having three children, but at the mere sight of all three of them, out in public, with me.  Like she REALLY did think I was crazy.  Now, don’t get me wrong……..she can have her own opinions and ways of thinking….she can think any way she wants.  The issue is that she actually voiced this ugly attitude and opinion to me in an utterly rude way.  Totally uncalled for.

Her words really got me thinking……..to me, CRAZY…. is…….jumping out of a plane………it’s letting spiders crawl all over you………it’s driving on the wrong side of the road……..it’s mowing your lawn barefoot.  Those things are crazy, to me!!  NOT HAVING CHILDREN!!!!!

I bring this story to you, not only to teach us to watch what we say to people and how we say it, but to also realize what God tells us:

“Children are a Heritage from the Lord.  The fruit of the womb is a reward from Him” —-Psalm 127

Children are a REWARD, a GIFT and a HERITAGE from the Lord.  Having one of them, four of them, or even 20 of them is NOT CRAZY!!!!  There are MUCH crazier things!!!!  I urge us all, whether you have children, or not, to see yours or others’ children as a special, wonderful, amazing gift from the Lord.  Just think of the joy they have brought you, the things they have taught you, and how they have lovingly and beautifully enriched your life.

Don’t let what other people say to you, or tell you, sway you.  Mark and received many side comments, whether jokingly, or not, about having a third child.  In all honesty, I was quite shocked that people would think that having three children was a lot.  Again, this is just my opinion and we all don’t have to see this the same way.  I know we all are not going to agree…..but, really, now………having three kids is NOT CRAZY!!  Ooooohhh, and what if we were to make it an even FOUR?!?!?  There might be pandemonium!!  🙂

Ok, so all joking aside……I hope you can understand where I’m coming from and what I’m trying to say:

Children are a true and utter BLESSING.

No.  Matter.  What.

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6 Responses to “Faithful Friday—Crazy?!”

  1. Tomara Says:

    I don’t think anyone ever verbally called me crazy but I got the looks… many times. Most of those times were in the first couple weeks after my 2nd, 3rd and 4th were born. I did the un-Southern thing and took my baby out of the house! Oh my you should have seen the faces of the older ladies at church when I showed up with a 4-day old at church! I polietly explained that having a baby doesn’t stop time and my life does go on and my other kids still need a mom (hubby was deployed for #2 and #4).

    I think people nowadays just don’t “get it.” It’s no longer “kosher” to have more than two kids. I get the “how do you do it?” and “you must be so busy” comments daily… and each one is more annoying than the last.

    OK… I’m done rambling. Brush it off. Just remember that you’re a great mom and try not to feel sorry for that lady’s kids. 😀

    • srowe5 Says:

      Tomara!! You CRACK me up!! And you are SO RIGHT! I love it that someone understands what I’m talking about!!! 🙂

  2. Stephanie Says:

    Sarah, I hear you! Many people in this rush, rush society think it is crazy to take time for our children, or to do household duties WITH our children.

    Of course, I think people that TRULY don’t need to work and do even when they have babies, are crazy…take no offense folks who work–to each his own. I recently closed my daycare that was full with 6 kids under the age of 3. I have no clue how one mom dropped her 3 week-old off at my house and walked out the door to go to work. (She was a kindergarten teacher, important work, but not more important than being there for her baby IMHO). I had her baby 9 hours a day!

    I often had to take the kids (all 6) to school functions to see my daughter get awards etc. and people told me I was crazy! My response was “At least I get to be with my son.”

    Kids grow up so fast as you know. Take your time with them. Treat yourself once in a while to time without them. And know that you are doing what is right for you and your family.

  3. Petra Bergman Says:

    Sarah, thanks for this post! You are so right, children are an amazing gift and blessing from God!! It’s too bad that not everyone sees it that way.


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